Training

We started our required DHS adoption training on Thursday (May 1). We will go every Tuesday and Thursday through the month of May, for three hours each evening. Tonight was our second night. We've quickly realized that we're not going to get a ton of training specific to us, unfortunately. The training is for anyone involved with the DHS system, basically. So, adoption, foster, and kinship are all in the class together. It's VERY focused on the foster side of it...we're getting a lot of information on we're just temporary...we're the bridge, taking the kids wherever their permanent home is...we're working with the birth family to work toward re-unification. That's NOT us, though. We're ONLY adopting. We will not be fostering anyone. So, by the time we meet these kids they will be a possible permanent placement for us. I say 'possible' only because there is always the possibility that we won't be able to adopt someone who initially comes into our home to be adopted. The point is, though, we will not be working with birth families or working toward re-unification.

Out of 20-25 people in our class, there is only one other couple that is there for adoption. So, I can see why we would be grouped with foster and kinship. I can also see how we can benefit from seeing all sides of the training. We need to know where our kids were before coming to us....and, since they will be coming from foster care, it will help us to see the training foster parents receive. I just really wish we could have that training as adoptive parents. I wish we could be in a class that was designed for adoptive parents. I just feel like most of our time is being wasted.

Maybe different

I've logged on to China adopter's blogs every day for two years. I've read the rumor queen's blog several times a week during that same time period. I think about China all the time. I wish that we qualified to adopt right now. It really does involve a lot of my life.

Since adoption is so heavy on my heart, I also look at other countries, waiting children (international and U.S.), etc. Last week when I was looking through the U.S. waiting children photolisting, I found a sibling group of three children. I was completely drawn to them. NEVER did I think I would want to adopt more than one child at a time...NEVER did I think I'd want to adopt a child older than the age of about two years. But, for some reason, these kids were different. Addyson's only six and I definitely would never consider someone older than her, but the oldest in this group is seven. It's crazy!

I can't stop thinking about them, though. I talked to Michael that night about every detail of adoption. We have always known we would adopt from China once we met the age and marriage requirements, so we have never really discussed, in detail, other adoptions. So, I asked him his preference on everything....age, how many at a time, race, diseases, disabilities, countries, financial amount, open vs. closed, etc. We were almost identical on all of our thoughts (I've thought about the details every day for 6 or 7 years, but I knew a lot of these issues were new to his mind.) He, like me, said he would rather only adopt one child at a time...and he definitely wanted younger than 3 or 4.

Then, I told him why I was asking and showed him the photolisting of the three siblings. The next day, he's hooked like me. We haven't stopped talking about them. He actually used words like, "I really want them." and he's been looking at kids' bedrooms online, wondering what we should do for our kids. It's insane...seriously!

A home study takes 3-6 months to complete through OK DHS and, by law, you must have an approved home study before inquiring about waiting children. So, we could totally not be approved (I don't know why we wouldn't be)...we could be approved after they've already been adopted by someone else...we could meet them and for some reason it won't work out. I have no idea. Maybe our interest in them is only meant to draw us to the waiting children in America and God has someone else planned for us. I don't know.

We are starting our process now, though, so I'm just ecstatic!